James Barbour

Russian Federation

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Tuesday 26 May, 2009

Diplo-brats?

In itinerant professions such as mine, one of the more common topics of conversation is the effect of our regular upheavals on our families. Uprooting every few years isn't always easy on spouses and children, and on their friendships, education and careers.

I'm fortunate enough to have a spouse whose career is relatively portable. I also have two children who are having very different growing up experiences to their peer group in the UK. Their friendships are more transient, a self-defence policy against the constant cycle of best friends who disappear. They see their extended family far less than I'd like. Their education is broader but less UK-focused; my daughter probably knows a number of other countries' political systems better than she knows our own. And, culturally, these 'third-country nationals' often seem on a different planet, missing out on kids' TV shows, music and other popular culture. Not to mention the transatlantic accent which, thankfully, they seem to learn to switch on and off at will - another defence mechanism, perhaps.

But there's an up-side, too.

This term, the 5th grade class have been conducting various bits of writing, research and presentation around their topic of choice. Cats, horses, cars and football seem to figure fairly high up the list. I expected something along similar lines when I asked my daughter what her subject would be; fairies, perhaps, or dragons.

"Conflict," she pronounced. "Specifically, the situation in Gaza, and how the different people involved see it."

Gosh. So we're not just talking conflict, but empathy and constructivism, too.

A few weeks later, and she's inspired the whole class to get involved in examining the nature of conflict, both global and personal. I'm impressed.

I asked her why she'd gone for such a grown-up and complex topic.

"Well, I'm really interested in what Embassies and Diplomats do, and I think it's important for people to get along with others," was the exceptionally grown-up reply.

A small example, perhaps, but illustrative of the variety of experiences - and consequent breadth of worldview - that foreign service children are fortunate enough to enjoy, in exchange for the disruption and transience. Well worth the trade-off, if you ask me.

I hope my children agree.

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One hopes that the teenage rebellions of such children do not set them irrevocably against international dialogue!

Posted by Francis Osborn on June 23, 2009 at 08:33 PM BST #

I was interested to read your reflection on your children's educational experiences. As a teacher at one of the international schools here in Moscow, I found myself smiling at what you wrote. Much of my experience has been with the year group that your daughter has just completed. Whilst we teach the English National Curriculum, we are able to offer a broader perspective than we would in the UK. They can look beyond their immediate environment in quite unexpected ways, as you also found out. I undertook a similar project with my class after we had finished our SATs and they presented many items ranging from their personal pets, to the designs of Louis Vuitton, to Korean diplomatic relationships in the 20th century. What impressed me just as much was the way in which they presented them. Some children used hand-outs, some used PowerPoint presentations - one created a video and put it on YouTube! Certainly the transient nature of friendships is a downside as roughly 33 of our children move in and out each year. However, on the positive side, the children learn to make friends more quickly than they probably would at home; to develop friendships and to 'open up' that bit more readily. They are far more tolerant of other countries and cultures than they would otherwise be: everyone is just 'another child'. In almost six years in Moscow I have only had to deal with two incidents that were race related. The behaviour as a whole is excellent. What else? Although many children have English as an additional language, they achieve as well or higher in comparison with the UK because they are supported at home. Undoubtedly the small classes help ! but knowing that if homework gets sent home, or if there is an issue, parents are far more likely to be supportive of the class teachers. Sadly, the culture in the UK has changed so much that my profession is held in a position of contempt; whereas overseas we can do our jobs and know that we will be supported by the vast majority of parents. As a teacher, working with foreign service children and those of others who find themselves here for a short period of time is a pleasure. They are well mannered, motivated and great fun to teach. I appreciate what you are saying about your children's education being less UK-focused but in an increasingly multicultural world, that is not necessarily a bad thing.

Posted by Chris Barnes on August 12, 2009 at 04:02 PM BST #

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